Some great news…our home study is complete! This brings us one step closer to being able to bring the kids home.
The home study was a little unnerving, not the actual home study, but definitely the weeks leading up to it. You get in your head that a stranger is going to come into your home, critique you, and decide if you are worthy or not to have children. When you are a person who has faced infertility this is extremely daunting (or at least it was for me) because you see this person as the last life line to having a family.
You clean your house. You say a prayer over your dogs that they will be on their best behavior that day, get along with their siblings & not steal food from the case worker’s plate. You remind your husband that this is not the time to tell the story of the time he roller-bladed behind a truck & he reminds you that whistling is not a talent that everyone needs/wants to hear. Then you say a prayer over yourselves because at the end of the day it is all in God’s hands.
Needless to say the ordeal was painless, our case worker was delightful, asked great questions that we answered honestly, & gave us some great insight to think about before the kids come. Pretty sure Tyler told his rollerblading story & I might have whistled while setting up lunch because it is our “home” study & in our home we have to be able to be ourselves.
All that being said…I want my kids to be themselves at home. Right now, even though we don’t “know” the kids (all we have is one picture & notes saved from a phone call back in February about them), I am trying to work on their rooms. I am trying to find a balance between:
I want to add special details & family mementos, but allow them room to grow into the rooms & make them their own. They will have to learn to share, but I want them to have a space that is their own. Please be praying for thoughtfulness, creativity & consideration while we prepare spaces for them. Please pray for competitiveness & jealousy to stay away.
“The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires.” ~Dorothy Parker
At the dinnermesa,